Ever have a day where you can’t stop crying, or no matter how much you cry you don’t feel better? Or feel angry or scared for no real reason, and can’t seem to shake it? Have you ever laid awake at night trying to figure something out, obsessing over some “problem” that needs fixed with no solutions?

If you said “Yes” to any of the above, there is good news! At least some of the energy you’re feeling is NOT YOURS.

That might seem like a “problem,” and in some ways it is a challenge as well as a gift. Being so sensitive has many perks including increased intuition, compassion, healing abilities, creativity and capacity to love.

The challenging part is just not knowing when you are taking on someone else’s energy. Not being able to discern if this is energy you want to take on or not. This is why so many of us with huge hearts actually block the love we long for.

Having lived with these gifts consciously for decades, I can share with you some simple tips to dealing with these challenges:

1). Know that if you cannot process an emotion or solve a problem, you can just let go of it. Sometimes just knowing that allows us to let go and move on.

2). Imagine a gauge. Close your eyes, and in your mind’s eye see a gauge that shows a range of 0-100%. It could be digital or it could be like the gas gauge in your car. Ask yourself, “Of all this sadness/ fear/ pain/ anxiety/ boredom/ etc. that I’m feeling, what percentage is mine?” Allow a number to appear on your gauge.

There is always a reason why we take energy on, and so this is not about blaming or avoiding responsibility. If you notice that you regularly try to process emotions or solve problems for other people, I suggest asking yourself why. Besides that you’re psychic, you may subconsciously feel you’ll be loved or safe or special if you do so. This is useful to know so you can meet that need in a healthier way.

I have found that it is actually more responsible to allow other people to solve their own problems, and to focus on my own life. When I do, I have more to give, other people like me better, and I empower others by letting them find their own answers.

If your gauge showed you that some of the emotion or problem IS yours, then what? You have to feel it and work through it. The difference here is that when it’s your sadness, you cry and feel better. Your problems feel like creative challenges. Your puzzle may be complicated, but you have all the pieces.

Not sure how to let go of what’s not yours? Check out the “Meditation 101” class where I’ll teach you this and more!