You may have heard, “You are love,” and while there’s nothing you need to DO, here are some tips to help you REMEMBER and see the reflection of that love in your daily life:
1). Breathe and feel your body. I’m not going to tell you to love yourself, because that can feel fake if you aren’t there in this moment. But simply bringing your energy to yourself will start the process.
2). Find pleasure in something. Sometimes feeling our bodies makes us aware of pain, and that’s ok. Pain is part of life, and it’s actually closely linked with pleasure. But meanwhile, finding anything pleasurable will bring us more IN to our bodies, and that feeling of pleasure will be magnetic to more.
3). Acknowledge your pain and vulnerability. There is a difference between acknowledging and indulging. Most of us never go there because we’re afraid if we admit fear, sadness, shame or rage it will never stop. The opposite is true. Find a safe way to express it, and it will cease to control you. This will soften you and make you more open to love and pleasure! Not to mention, you will stop attracting the “shadow” in your environment and will find you have more conscious relationships!
4). Laugh. Are you attracted to people who have a great sense of humor? I know I am! You don’t have to be happy all the time; laughing at our human quirks and life’s challenges can be a great place to start.
5). Call your energy BACK from your partner or love interest. Why would you do that? Because if you’re in their space, they don’t miss you! Imagine a golden sun above your head with a magnet in in, and that your energy flows back into the sun from anywhere it’s been. Then allow it to pour through your entire body and fill up. Don’t be surprised if your phone rings when you finish this exercise.
6). Become confident. Fake it til you make it. Pretend I am your acting teacher telling you to act sassy for the next hour. Consider what you ARE confident about and do that, or focus on that more. Studies show that confidence is one of the biggest things that attract men to women (along with sensuality, covered above under “pleasure.”)
7). Think of someone or something you appreciate. It doesn’t need to be romantic. You might love a child, the smell of coffee or laughing with your good friends. Breathe into your heart as you feel your gratitude.
8). If you’re in a committed relationship, pretend you’re dating. If you’re only wearing sweats and you see the “honey do” list in your mind whenever he walks in the room, he may not find you irresistible. Just saying.
9). Express more. When you hold it in, your heart starts to close.There is more room than you know to share even your “negative” feelings– they make you dynamic and irreplaceable, when shared appropriately. Definitely share your appreciations too– and not just of your partner, but also your friends, family, even people on the street!
10). Stay connected. This is the secret to sharing the difficult things. Most of us learned to cower in fear, to turn anger inward, or to go numb when we get uncomfortable. But what if you felt your heart as you looked fiercely into your partner’s eyes and said, “I’m really angry right now.” Whether it’s rage, fear, sadness or even pleasure– practice staying connected even when you hit those places you’re scared to go.