This isn’t what you might think…
I’m not going to give a list of the top 10 flirtatious things you can say over text to your lover (there are probably plenty of magazines to give you those kinds of tips).
Remember, I’m an expert in energy and what I’m here to share are some ways you can align your energy with your desire. That’s how we manifest. 🙂
Ready? I have tips for you if you’re either…
1). looking for more romance and sweetness with a steady partner… or
2). dating and feeling awkward in the whole text and email “courting” stage
I have a confession…
I have a partner that hates to talk about money. And we have to, since we share a home and a child.
He’s an amazing man that loves to support me and pretty much anyone he meets… but he also resists a long list of “honey-do’s”. So let me tell you what I’ve learned…
These next tips are especially for those of you in partnership…
When I need to talk with him about money, or chores, or scheduling, or tasks (all of which I love, being a Capricorn :)- I text or email him. Then he can digest it and reply to me when he’s in “business mode” and “getting things done”, and he beats his chest over it.
The more I do it this way, the more we relax over breakfast, or before we go to bed at night. He doesn’t associate my body or energy field with chores, and so he lights up when he sees me instead of retracting.
Added bonus… we have come a long, long way and have found a great flow in our weekly schedule and money talks. The Capricorn and mother in me likes that.
One of my clients had a similar question about her husband. She told me, “He’s acting weird and I’m wondering why. What do you see?”
Now some women would immediately go into a mind-trip, asking “Is he cheating on me?” or “How can I fix him?” or “How can I make him feel better?”
But my client was very self-aware and it just took me saying, “It looks like he feels bombarded when he walks in the door after work. You haven’t seen him all day and so you want to discuss household business, and all he wants to do is unwind and feel your softness and sweetness right then.”
“Oh,” she said, sounding relieved as her eyes lit up. “I could go over all that with him over email.” So she did it and the romance came right back. Her man could feel excited with her again, just like when they were first lovers.
Now, for those of you in the dating phase…
Let me tell you about another client. She met a man while traveling in another city, and really liked him.
They were getting to know each other over email, and she kept asking me how quickly to write him back. If he took a week to write her, should she wait a week or longer and play “hard to get?” Or just write him back right away like she wanted to?
I told her it wasn’t really about how many days had passed. Everyone is psychic, and men especially respond to our energy. In general, energy is much more important than which actions we take.
I told her, “If you’re in your head analyzing when to write him back and wondering if you’re gonna blow it, he won’t be as attracted to you as he will be if you can get into your body and sensuality and confidence and then write him back. It would be better for you to feel sexy and write him back in one day than to feel anxious and write him back in a week.
If you’re dating and using text and email to communicate, you may not be able to use your physical appeal to draw him in. So, let the energy you emanate make him want to see you. And, be clear in your mind and heart on what you are available for and choose to experience, because that’s what you’ll get.
I was talking to my husband the other day about how to be in my confidence and support clients in their personal growth without pushing them. He is an amazing intuitive himself, and he said, “Don’t say anything… just hold the picture of them taking their steps.”
I grinned and said, “That’s what I do with you.” And he said, “I know.”
Amanda says
I love this Ann!
It feels so positive. As women dealing with men and romance, we tend to really overthink things. When that very habit takes us out of feeling romantic and inspiring that in men too!
We deserve to have the love we want. This is beautiful way to get there.
Lots of love,
Amanda