energy healing

Mar 13 2020

A Personal Note From Ann…

As I write to you, I am rested and well and my world is stable. Thankfully, I have always been someone who is up for adventure, and I knew I was incarnating at an interesting time!

I am aware of the mass levels of fear and contraction and I appreciate the grounding, simplifying and humbling effect it is having. That said, now is a very important time to choose how we are creating our lives and what we are aligning with. The choice is here to unsubscribe from fear. We can be “real” without agreeing to a mass circulated panic. Can you discern and find the difference?

Do we want to be “sheeple” or do we celebrate life force and creativity? We can absolutely find unity and community while doing the latter, but it doesn’t look good now if we give in to being victims or feeling powerless.

For over 20 years, I have seen that the world would become more polarized, and so I have placed priority on cultivating my vibration and supporting others in doing the same. This has included intuitive and healing sessions (available by phone and online btw), as well as my extensive studies of holistic health and relationships.

I am not that inclined to politics, though I have heard some interesting theories about why this is all happening. To me, the game is about life force and sovereignty. The only way those are taken from us is if we give them up.

This is good news. This is why I wrote a book about new paradigm love and masculine-feminine harmony.

Our relationships and life force are not incidental or luxuries to pursue once we feel secure. Studies show that happy relationships boost immunity, and Edgar Cayce (a famous psychic at the turn of the 20th century) said that lack of circulation is the root of all disease.

So even as you may be hunkering down, I encourage you to consider…

How can I boost my life force and joy right now?
What choices can I make towards having happy, heart-fulfilling relationships?
Where have I been giving up my sovereignty and how can I reclaim it?

And some specific, easy ways to boost immunity are:

Lots of sleep!
Raw garlic… put on your food or suck on a clove like a cough drop
Raw ginger, or ginger tea
Elderberry drinks or syrup (antiviral)
Essential oils- diffuse or put on your body. Some of my favorites are frankincense, citrus oils, OnGuard (by DoTerra), Theives (by Young Living), eucalyptus and lavender… all great immune boosters.
Turn off your wi-fi at night and turn off your phone or put it on airplane mode. EMFs and particularly 5G have been shown to weaken immunity.

I am here for you if you’d like to do a phone or online session.

I have changed the Colorado “Wild Women’s Wisdom” Retreat into an online webinar to support more of you in thriving as dynamic, wise women. Men, please pass it on! Early bird through 3/19!

To your vitality!

Love,

Oct 19 2018

Energy Choices That Hurt

We can’t control the world. The world “out there” can feel crazy, and it’s easy to get lost or swept away in it all.

We can choose what we allow and align with, energetically. Besides choosing our food, job, friends or spouse- we also make choices about our energy. The problem is that most energy choices are invisible and made unconsciously, and so are difficult to fix.

Here are some examples:

Giving your energy to someone else. I’m not talking about sharing energy. That feels good. I’m talking about giving away your creative power- so someone else can use it. In this case, the life gets sucked out of your dreams. For example, if you focus in jealousy on that “other woman” or “other man,” or on that person who gets the job you want- you are actually increasing their success through the emotional power you give the situation. Or, if you give and give to someone in hopes they will one day give back to you, and they rarely or never do- ouch.

Abandoning your energy. Besides giving our energy to others, we tend to leave it in other places, the future and the past. This can happen for so many reasons, but a common one is that we “check out” in moments of pain. It’s totally human to not want to feel pain, but going numb creates a downward spiral, because the less we’re “home” to feel what we feel: a). the more it hurts and b). the more vulnerable we become to picking up more “negative” energy.

Making choices when you’re feeling bad. This can look like eating an entire candy bar, drinking too much wine, texting your toxic ex in a moment of loneliness, or reacting to something that triggers you instead of taking the time to “catch your breath” and find a constructive response. The above might sound obvious, but we all need reminders at times! In my work, I also receive calls from people in fear, whose questions come from fear. This is why I also teach meditation and tools for personal empowerment, because we get way better answers when we first center ourselves and then ask our life’s questions.

Not choosing. There is a law in physics that says every empty space will be filled. That means you! There is value in going with the flow at times, but you can do so from a place of being full. Be full of wonder, of conscious surrender, of inspired creation. Some practical tools to achieve this are affirmations, prayer, and visualization exercises. One of my favorite ones that I share in the upcoming Psychic Self Care class is to consider how you want to feel, and then ask what color makes you feel that way. Surround yourself with an “energy bubble” of that color!

I have dedicated my life to mastering energy, and teaching other people how to do it. It’s super empowering and fun. I can’t tell you how many “ah-ha’s” I’ve witnessed, because the thing about energy is it’s so THERE even when it’s “invisible”. Naming it and working to use it instead of letting it use you brings such huge relief.

I have seen couples bring the spark back after major disconnection, women find their soulmates, babies conceived and born, family issues smooth out after years of tension, women starting their dream businesses, men and women dreaming big and finding successes they never would have achieved when they were bogged down with energy that wasn’t serving them. All this and more can shift through simple guided meditation, visualization and awareness practices.

I feel very inspired to support anyone ready for a breakthrough or going through challenges right now. If you sense there may be an “energy” component to your issue, or if you’ve tried other methods and still feel stuck or yearning for more, I invite you to join the upcoming class, Psychic Self Care for Sensitives and Creatives. We start Monday, 10/22! And let’s go into the holidays etc. feeling clear and bright!

Nov 19 2016

Are You Healing Your Family Unconsciously?

The holidays are upon us and ’tis the season for family “stuff”! And besides the usual messages of gratitude and celebration, I thought I’d share a bit about what I’ve learned about energy and how it moves through families.

One thing I see is that there’s a “family healer” in most families. What is this?

These are not necessarily the people who become doctors or who obviously take care of everybody. In fact, family healers are usually too busy (energetically) to assist in these ways.

They don’t always look like they’re doing anything useful. A family healer might be…

the one with the foul mouth
the one who gets cancer
that trust fund kid who “never amounts to anything”… a creative free spirit
the devoted wife who gives her creative energy to her husband and kids

These people earn their money. They earn the care they often demand.

They express what the others don’t. They feel the rage or the grief or the longing.

Because if you think about it, healing is not about making things perfect. It’s not always pretty. It’s about returning to wholeness.

For truly, whatever we deny or disown will run the show in our lives. In families, old lies and betrayals and secrets and shame affect generations to come. Almost every family has this “stuff”.

Often, it got buried years ago. It probably started with people we’ve never met. When I work with a client who’s really stuck, I frequently find the cause in unconscious ancestral patterns.

It may also be current. One or more members of the family stuff their feelings or deny their greatness, and another one expresses those feelings or becomes successful in a way the other did not. Then the other one hates their guts. For instance, a child will naturally express his parents’ unexpressed stuff, triggering the parents to no end!

Families, in general, keep improving. And so family healers become what those who came before them wanted to become– if only they were ready, if only the world were ready. This can be both exciting and challenging.

I think this is one reason why grandparents love grandchildren so. They can appreciate their grandchildren’s freedom from limitations without the conflicting emotions they might have with their own children. And because ancestral healing goes deep, it can take generations to unwind.

I’ve had many conversations with my grandfather about this. He passed away in 2005, and while he took care of the family financially, he was very controlling.

I rebelled against this as a kid, and blew through the money as an adult. Looking back, I might have made some different choices.

I spent my 20’s cultivating my spirituality and creativity. I remember talking to my grandfather after I recorded my first CD and was touring coffeeshops around the southwest. I can still hear his reply to this day: “That’s nice, Ann, but are you making money?”

At that time, making enough money to support myself seemed unfathomable. Looking back, I’m so grateful that I had that time for creativity, and I’m not sure that “getting a job” was the right answer– given where I was at at the time. Still, I’ve certainly had some judgement and guilt about it.

Over the last few years, I’ve asked my grandfather for forgiveness several times. And each time, I was surprised by his answer: “I wouldn’t have wanted anything better for you.” I literally see him beaming with pride.

I’ve heard stories of how controlling his mother was. She moved with him from the east coast to LA when he went to college, if that gives you any idea. I’m sure he wanted to get away from that controlling energy, yet he didn’t know how.

He loved LA. I’m sure he loved the creative, individualistic energy here. Years ago, not thinking about healing my lineage, I moved here.

And I was the one, more than anyone in the family, who chose to live that free-spirited creative life. It might have looked great on the outside, but honestly, my 20’s weren’t always easy.

It took me a long time to learn how to stop feeling everyone’s stuff as my own. It was much easier after a decade or so of focused spiritual studies had strengthened me to the point where I could start a business and have a relationship.

Even after that, I still became the “family healer” in my first marriage. His sister, who had been “it”, died a month after we were married when her heart transplant failed to take. As the years went on, I’d sometimes get their Mom’s physical symptoms. Through these experiences, I’ve become fascinated with the connections between energy and our bodies, and I’ve learned a lot about holistic health.

Once, a business coach had me reflect on my greatest success story. She said it didn’t need to be a client, just a time where I used my super powers and it changed someone’s life in a powerful way.

My greatest success was my Dad. Into my 20’s, he would still as get drunk and obnoxious as he did when I was young. While I didn’t live with him, we still visited and spoke with one another, and the energy was tough.

I spent most of my year in “psychic school” clearing my Dad’s energy out of my space. It was huge for me in finding my way in life, but looking back it was even huger for him.

Around the end of that year, he called me when he was drunk. I set a boundary and told him I wouldn’t be able to talk with him in that state. And I hung up.

Weeks later, my Mom called to tell me he had quit drinking cold turkey. I am sure the combination of setting that boundary plus a year of releasing his energy was a major factor.

As we come upon the holidays, I invite you to look at where you heal your family in healthy or unhealthy ways, consciously or unconsciously. Since I did it unconsciously for so long and have worked with many clients in similar positions, I can see the pros and cons of doing so.

We usually have good reasons for healing our families unconsciously:

We love them and want the best for them
We want to feel safe and secure in their presence
We are natural healers so why not?
We don’t want them to suffer

Here are the drawbacks of doing so:

This type of healing arrangement can take a long time and may never shift. Why? Because by taking on their pain or letting them live through us, they don’t get to find their own way. It perpetuates dependency and assumes they cannot do it. This is why my releasing my Dad’s energy and setting a boundary worked after decades of healing him unconsciously did not.
It can keep us from living our own full, healthy and vital lives. It’s much easier to be healthy and successful in love, work and money if you know how to center yourself. You can learn to find compassion without taking on other people’s stuff. This benefits your family.
People don’t always appreciate it. As I mentioned earlier, you may be expressing the qualities they’ve rejected in themselves, or succeeding in areas where they could not. On the other hand, they might judge you for “failing” in life, not seeing how your unconscious healing is keeping you too busy to “get a job,” “settle down,” or whatever they want for you.

Can we heal our families without taking their stuff on or repeating unhealthy patterns? Yes!

Here’s what you can do instead:

Take responsibility for yourself, not for your family members. If you have a small child or an adult family member who is truly dependent, you may need to be responsible for them in certain ways. More often, we feel responsible for others’ actions– or even feelings– which we have no control over. Try to recognize that others will do and feel what they do. In the case of children, you can keep them safe and give them healthy limits while still honoring their feelings and choices. See if you can focus more on what’s coming up for you, and less on changing others.
Communicate. Ancestral patterns often perpetuate because they weren’t talked about. It’s human to want to hide our pain and shame and protect our loved ones, and at the same time, light will free us from the dark. That means talk about things– at least to a counselor, a trusted friend, or select family members. It’s actually much easier to share the uncomfortable truth than a pretty lie, because our sensitive loved ones will feel unsettled with a lie even if they don’t know why. Lies are exhausting while truth brings relief.
Honor what you’ve been given. In my younger years, I was too busy rejecting my lineage (due to all their energy I took on and couldn’t fix) to appreciate it. Now, I see how gratifying is for a parent or ancestor to be appreciated. It’s heartwarming and relaxing to all! Even if there are things you don’t like about your family (and we all have them), on a spiritual level consider that you chose them for a reason. Let this holiday season be an opportunity to tell them all the things you love about them, and all you have learned from them.

I hope this was helpful! As always, feel free to leave a comment below, and reach out if you’d like to explore your family “stuff” more in depth. Happy Thanksgiving!

Oct 13 2016

Why Feeling Everything is Important

I cry and unexpected money shows up. I scream and my relationship has a breakthrough. I sing and dance and feel healthier.

I show my “imperfect” feelings and my daughter learns to trust me more. Even better, she learns to feel safe with her own feelings.

It’s the opposite of what most of us are taught. Especially when we’re stressed, wondering “Is my relationship/ money/ health/ ______ going to be ok?,” our knee-jerk reaction is to clamp down. Hold on for dear life.

In those moments, we feel “I can’t afford to mess up here.” We try harder, we pretend more, and we push and tense up because it takes energy to shove our feelings down.

And I can tell you after decades of observing myself and the people around me doing it, it doesn’t even work. Flat out. It doesn’t work.

And of course we have to consider where and when and how to express our feelings. It’s not appropriate to scream in the middle of a restaurant, it’s not helpful to call someone names or let emotions take over our lives completely.

There’s an art to feeling them fully and honoring others and the rest of our lives. It’s worth mastering, and contrary to our fears, it makes us more mature and successful in life, not less.

By feeling more, we can live more fully. Our creativity turns on. We allow more good into our lives. And we cannot avoid the “bad” and still expect the good to come.

I interviewed a couple of tantra experts for the Empowered Living Podcast, and both talked about this. For example, Michaela Boehm shared that we can only feel as much orgasmic pleasure as we can feel anger. And that goes for all our emotions– by feeling the “negative” ones we allow more of the “positive” ones.

People think tantra is all about sex, but it’s not. That’s a great way to get people’s attention and yet tantra is a much bigger concept.

Loosely translated, it means “weaving” and “expansion”, and refers to embracing both body and spirit, that our spirituality can include the body and everything “worldly”. In a sense, it’s an “advanced” concept, because it’s easier to meditate in a cave than it is to find bliss in the midst of work, marriage, children and modern life. These days, it’s rare to find a cave or set aside such time, and so tantra is becoming popular.

Ever since I was a teenager, it’s pissed me off when people lived with their volumes “turned down”. It’s challenged me when someone’s words or actions didn’t match their energy. I could feel these things, and I felt confused and sad. Sad, because I knew more was possible. I didn’t know there were teachings about this and I certainly didn’t have it modeled to me.

In big and little ways, we all “hold back” at times. For example, many of us overstep our own boundaries because we’re afraid to disappoint someone. Or, we say we’re “good” when we’re furious and “fine” when we’re bursting with joy. We rush by flowers that smell sweeter than the best perfume.

I felt alone with my sensitivity as a kid, but now I realize how sensitive we all are. Some of us can see it more clearly than others, perhaps, but everyone gets confused when people’s actions don’t match their words!

I see how many relationship problems are caused by someone not speaking their truth (or even knowing what they really feel), acting out and then triggering the other. It’s much, much harder to unravel these things if we aren’t willing to look at what’s really going on.

I see people getting stuck in their health and money and career challenges when they aren’t willing to feel. Simply put, if one kind of energy can’t flow, then no energy can flow.

And emotional energy is incredibly powerful. Tapping into it is the key to manifesting anything.

If you’re not sure how to access your feelings, or what to do with them when you do, hit me up for a reading and let’s take a look together! This Sunday, 10/16, you can get a *free* mini-reading in the Empowered Living Psychic Lounge. Tantra is one of our themes and I’ll take these questions first!

Thanks for reading, and as always, feel free to post your comments and questions below.

Apr 22 2016

Do You Respond, React or Resist?

If there’s one thing I’m really good at, it’s efficiency. It’s one of those things I geek out on.

For example, I buy rice from the bulk bin and come home to find it fits EXACTLY in the jar I have. I know precisely when to order supplies for the house so we never run out. I have a place for everything on my schedule and I generally know where my body is in time and space.

My efficiency annoys those close to me. I don’t like to waste a minute. I can’t have any clutter on the kitchen counter. You get the gist.

When I was dating online years ago, there was a multiple choice question asking about my strongest traits. I couldn’t not check “I maintain an organized life”. I like to think this is a sign of enlightenment. 🙂

In my Aikido practice, I’ve seen how efficient the great martial arts masters are in their movements. With barely a flick of the wrist, they’ll send multiple attackers to the floor. People watching stop and stare with their eyes popped open in their sockets.

Besides economy of energy, the biggest thing Aikido has taught me is that responding– and how we do it– is a choice. It’s taught me to find joy and power in receiving. And that when we respond appropriately, we naturally become efficient because we’re not wasting any energy on reacting or resisting.

Life is always giving us stuff to respond to. To pretend it’s not– or to try to close ourselves off – means we live in resistance. And no matter how intense your problems feel, resistance is the biggest thing that keeps us from healing and growing. Basically, it keeps the problems in place and causes new ones. 🙁

When we aren’t taking care of ourselves or are emotionally triggered, it’s easy to react. Have you ever noticed that things you say in those moments aren’t so well received? Or that actions you take as a push-back against something don’t bear the best fruit?

I am learning more each day how important it is to respond. Sometimes, the best response is to do nothing– just step aside and let someone go by. Other times, it’s most efficient to step in and connect, even for a second. And once in a while, we need to get in someone’s face to break a pattern and move some energy.

I think for a long time, I misunderstood efficiency. I ignored or avoided a lot of things that required a response, not realizing that the response would be easier than the resistance. And I also gave some things wayyyyyy more attention than they required.

How could you improve your efficiency and powers of responding today? Here are some ideas…

- Meditate. Sit with your eyes closed and breathe, practice clearing or grounding techniques, or do yoga or other mind-body practice. Find a way to center yourself daily and you’ll find it easier to respond.

- Before you react, look at your goals. In the face of whatever is triggering you, ask yourself what you’d like to feel, have or experience instead. Then, ask yourself what kind of response will take you towards your goal. Choose that.
- Make a list of everything you’ve been avoiding or resisting. These could be little things or big things, for example: a health issue or an email to return. These things drain your energy. Write down 1 action step for each thing on your list, and a date by which you will take it.
- Clear out what’s unnecessary. That may mean your bedroom closet or the junk in your car, it could be a toxic relationship or pattern, or you might need to be more conscious with your speech. Check to be sure your words, actions, choices and possessions are all serving a purpose.

I hope you enjoy these tips and find them helpful. If it’s hard, know that it’s worth it. As we master our power to respond, so much more energy gets freed up to enjoy our lives!

Need some help so you can stop reacting or get out of resistance? We are all human and I’d love to support you! Book a private session here.