spiritual power

Jul 08 2015

What Sex, Money, Time and Health Issues Have in Common

As human beings, we tend to obsess over sex, money, time and our health. Some of us obsess over all of them, but pretty much everyone fixates on at least one of those things. And, in a sense, they all boil down to one thing:

ENERGY

Specifically, concerns about sex, money, time or health all relate to how we are managing our energy. Here are some examples:

A lack of sexual energy can reflect a challenge with accessing one’s masculine or feminine energy or creative power. It can mean there is programming or trauma saying this energy is “bad” or “too much” or that turning it on makes you too vulnerable.
An over-emphasis on sexual energy can be a way to look for power outside yourself. Using this energy to manipulate, feeling “needy” for it, or (particularly for men) “leaking” it too frequently or without heart can drain your life force.
When you lack energy, or are disconnected from your natural energy, it can show up as feeling that you don’t have enough money or time.
Not knowing how to manage your money or time means you’re not sure how to manage your energy, and perhaps, that you don’t honor your energy on some level.
Edgar Cayce, the famous psychic from the turn of the century, said that all health issues relate to circulation— in other words, movement of energy. It makes sense from the Chinese medical perspective as well, for they refer to energy stagnation, excess or weakness when treating physical imbalances.

chigongwoman So if sex, money, time and health all come down to energy, why do we focus on them so much? Why not focus on energy?

Paradoxically, energy management is something that is not really taught in schools. I didn’t learn much about energy growing up, and seeing the need for it has made this a focus of my teaching.

I have seen time and time again– in my own life and in my clients– that when we shift our energy, external “problems” get solved– often much more easily than we could have imagined. And, the benefits we get are more far-reaching– we get our problem solved PLUS a big upgrade to our life. Voila!

So let’s focus on energy for a minute…

Consider these questions to get a pulse on your “energy IQ”:

Do you know where your energy is right now? You know where your body is, but where is your attention? Is your mind on other people, the future, the past, or in another place? Do you feel present? Is there energy in your body? If so, where? Are you in several places at once?
Can you tell if someone else’s energy is in your space? If so, how? Do you feel it, see it, hear it or just know?
Do you notice your energy changing in certain environments? When you eat certain foods? What makes you feel healthier? What seems to balance your sexual energy? When are you clear-headed?
Do you honor your energy when it comes to your time and money?
Do you know how to “set your energy” to be more magnetic, to project certain qualities and to attract certain experiences?

If you easily know the answers to most of these, you are probably pretty “energy-savvy”. If not…

There are a lot of great ways to get to know your energy and begin to harness it. Yoga, martial arts, and certain styles of meditation actively focus on it. Most any physical activity done mindfully, cleaning up your diet and receiving bodywork or energy healing are also excellent.

In the Meditation 101 class, I teach you techniques that will allow you to answer the above questions for yourself on a daily basis. The practices create shifts in your daily, practical life, plus connect you to your intuition. Meditation 101 (as well as Awaken Your Clairvoyance) start 7/21.

Enjoy, and feel free to post any questions or comments below!

Apr 27 2015

Volcanos, Earthquakes and Your Emotions

I have heard that this is a year for emotional clearing, and the last few weeks have been said to be a time of transformation, according to several astrology forecasts.

Earlier in the month, a client asked me if I saw any earthquakes coming because he had heard predictions. I am not usually alarmist or even into predictions, but I saw the potential for it. I suggested doing prayer circles.

A few days ago, a 7.8 earthquake hit Nepal, claiming thousands of lives. I personally know of 2 people who lost someone they knew.

Last Tuesday, my husband was pacing around our house. “I’m really restless,” he said. “This is how I felt before a big earthquake. This is how I felt before 9/11.” He has a knack for feeling the planet.

I sensed the tension too, and many people I knew had an intense day last Tuesday. It’s like there was this pressure under the surface that put us on edge without knowing why.

The next day, a volcano erupted in Chile causing over 4,000 evacuations. Pressure released! It was strange because, even before I knew this, I noticed that Wednesday felt much lighter and easier than Tuesday.

I don’t claim to always understand why these tragedies happen, and I feel for those affected. There are all kinds of reasons why someone would be in the middle of one and none of them involve being a “victim.”

Many people blame the weather for their bad days, and credit the weather for a good day. I have long seen it a little differently. The weather is a reflection of human consciousness. And so are these natural “disasters.”

I’m sure scientists have their own explanation. I am not a scientist. But I have studied energy for several decades now, and it seems that whenever people need to go inward, we have a cloudy week. When spirits are high and it’s time to get stuff done, the sun comes out. A fresh rain comes just as emotions start to flow, and we are nourished.

Last week, we were literally re-structuring things in our home. We have an extra bedroom that functioned as a shared office. My husband wanted one space in the house that was all his. I don’t get it, I don’t like it, but I saw that he needed it. He is spacial and works with products. He needs to lay his things out so he sees them or he forgets. I function fine with my things tucked away until I need them, and I don’t like clutter.

I am much more attuned to time. I was fine sharing space, but didn’t want my attention pulled by someone else’s paperwork, etc. And when it’s my time to work, I need to give it my full focus.

So this was emotional for me moving my desk into the dining room and trusting that my work would still flourish without an office, trusting that my cosmic husband and sweet daughter would get out of the house at the proper times. The day before the earthquake, I told him, “I feel like the ground is moving under my feet.”

When my client asked me about earthquakes, I saw the potential not just from reading the energy in the earth. I saw that people needed a wake-up call. Unfortunately, human nature is to resist change until the point of pain. And then pain motivates us like nothing else.

Mother earth feels everything. She can handle so much, but when she can’t take it anymore she erupts. As we are all learning to express our emotions more, and to allow conscious transformation in our lives, there are still pockets of resistance and long-held patterns of holding on for dear life.

We women, in particular, need to express our emotions so they don’t turn into resentment, self-denial or hatred, overweight or overwhelm. Have you ever noticed how much better you feel after a good cry? After telling someone you’re mad at them?

Like many women in my generation, I grew up with the unspoken message that tears were ok, anger not so much. As I’ve learned to express natural anger when it arises, I’ve been amazed at how “clean” it is! Meaning, it comes out and then it fully goes away. It doesn’t hurt anyone like I thought it would.

I’ve noticed this when others are angry, too. It’s actually refreshing, because the feelings were there anyway and are much easier to deal with in the moment. They don’t fester and snowball and get distorted. We know where everyone stands and can create real win-win relationships. Imagine that!?

In general, our society stresses activity and schools don’t really teach healthy emotional expression. Women and men alike have learned to stay strong and do what needs to be done. Of course, there is a place for that, but when months and years go by and feelings aren’t expressed, something is deeply wrong.

May these recent natural disasters remind us to check inside for anywhere we’re ready to burst. Are there any feelings you’ve been holding back? Sometimes we’re not even sure, and if so I suggest giving yourself a few minutes to check in. Close your eyes and take a few deep breaths, feeling your body for sensations of pleasure, tension or anything you notice. From here, ask yourself, “Are there any feelings I’ve been pushing down?” Any emotions you’ve tried to bypass?

Some of us are extra-sensitive (like my husband) and feel emotions that aren’t ours. If this is you, you may need extra practices for grounding and releasing energy. Otherwise, you will know your feelings are yours by the sense of relief you have in letting them move.

Cry, scream, journal, beat your pillow, tell someone– get it out in some way that does not hurt yourself or anyone else. Once you do, enjoy your extra manifesting power, increased health, better relationships, and feeling of freedom inside. Oh– and maybe just maybe we’ll see less earth shaking and less lava spewing as the years go on!

Dec 17 2014

7 Manifesting Myths

The new year is right around the corner! Refresh your creative and spiritual power as you consider your goals for 2015. Here are my top 7 Manifesting Myths and Tips:

1. You should only be “positive” if you want to manifest. Yes and no. If you are someone who’s always negative and complaining, that won’t work. But if you have been looking on the bright side, trying to be “spiritual,” or holding strong and pushing forward no matter how you feel, listen up.

Many years ago, I was upset one day– I don’t even remember why. I was alone one afternoon and I cried and pounded on the bed to let it out. In the middle of my “tantrum”, a yoga studio called offering me a job.

Another story: My now husband, who broke up with me 4 times in the first 4 months of our relationship, said yes and stepped all the way in after I got really angry with him. When we stuff our feelings, we also stuff our creative life force, and we can’t manifest much. Find a healthy way to let them move.

2. All you need to do is visualize or affirm your desire, and there it is. That can work if you already feel it as so. What happens a lot, though, is we consciously manifest something that our subconscious doesn’t agree with. And no matter what we see or speak or think, our feelings always win.

This can be tricky to discover, but if you’ve been manifesting something for some time without results, it’s probably going on. One simple way to tell is to affirm your desire while looking into the mirror. For example, look in your own eyes and say “I am a millionaire” (or whatever you’d like to manifest). If you don’t see the conviction in your eyes, if you don’t believe yourself, there is some part of you that doesn’t agree with your statement.

3. You can manifest anything and everything you want. Again, yes and no. As spirit we are infinite. The Universe is infinite. But ask yourself: Do you want to manifest in spirit or in 3-D?

If you just want to have juicy dreams at night or blissful meditations, go ahead and manifest anything. Doing so can certainly be useful for it’s expansive powers.

But in the body, there are limits. Most of us find that success comes incrementally, step by step. It certainly CAN happen that you go from living on welfare to living with millions, but if you constantly shoot for far-away goals, it can also set you up for disappointment.

Most of the time when we do this, we are subconsciously sabotaging ourselves. I recommend setting goals that, while they stretch you, feel attainable. Achieving them brings a feeling of success that will make your next step much easier. Before you know it, those bigger goals will feel real too.

4. You should always talk about what you are manifesting as if it is so. Yes, do this on your own, and perhaps with trusted loved ones who know you are manifesting– people who can get playful with you. There is great power in speaking affirmative statements in present time.

With most others, I recommend keeping more quiet about it, for 2 reasons: First, talking too much before something has “birthed” can leak energy from what you are creating. Second, if it’s not actually true yet, people may perceive you as lying and lose trust in you. This can pose challenges in relationships, as well as attract some un-helpful energetic projections your way.

There is also a Universal law that when you consistently speak the truth, your words become true. I encourage you to explore this for yourself.

5. Sex is bad or not spiritual. Your sexual energy and your creative life force are one and the same. Sex is how life gets created!

And so, if you’re blocking your sexual energy, you’re also limiting what you can manifest. By nature, sex is innocent and natural and unfortunately it’s been distorted a lot, causing many people understandably to fear or repress it.

Besides it’s connection with our creative power, sex in it’s loving expression brings incredible pleasure. And pleasure is what most of us need to get into our bodies! Otherwise, the limitations of our bodies can be a drag, and it can be more fun to float above our heads in la-la land, watching our lives go by while other people manifest.

Some mornings, I remember that there’s chocolate in the kitchen and this gets me out of bed. It’s ok. So find a healthy way to feel your body’s capacity for pleasure–whatever that is for you– and see what changes in your world.

6. You can manifest for other people. Yes, if they are also manifesting for themselves and ASK you to support them. Otherwise, this is both inethical and impossible.

People sometimes think that I, as a healer, have the power to make something go away or make something happen. Sometimes when you’re ready for change, it does take a healer to hold your hand through it, or to hold space for your release. But do it for you? No.

In my personal life, I often manifest things I’d like to experience in my relationships. But when I do so, I focus on how I’d like to feel, and I leave out people’s names.

For example, “I feel so cherished by my partner” works better than, “Arthur brings me flowers every Friday night.” Not only does it honor his free will, it also leaves room for my feeling cherished in ways I couldn’t have thought of!

7. All you need is your personal will. I talked earlier about the pitfalls of being “too spiritual.” We can also get stuck if we get too logical or isolate ourselves.

Taking action and focusing your intentions are important. But think about it– if you alone knew how to get out of your current problems, you would have already done so.

Besides receiving support from other people, at certain times we need to surrender to a larger intelligence or Divine will. Some of my long-time clients are pretty good at manifesting, but at a certain point have hit a wall and not known how to get to their next breakthrough.

In each case, they’ve had to step into a space of humility, admitting: “I need x, y and z, and I have no idea how to get there. Dear God, please show me. I’m done struggling.” If you don’t like the word God, you can use something else… perhaps “Universe”, or ask your angels and guides.

This approach brings us into our hearts and it expands us beyond where we were. That alone is helpful! So valuable, in fact, that many of us create pain in our lives to force us to go here. Not needed! I invite you to just get on your knees before you fall.

Enjoy your new years’ manifesting! If you’d like more support, consider one of the “Create Your 2015” workshops or the “New Year, New You” package.